Questions And Answers On Advice For Grandparents To Be

Does Being Nice really not get you anywhere?

So my friend who’s a girl didn’t get into the college of her dreams. I tried to cheer her up and be a nice person, but the advice I was giving her almost came out like lines from a movie and advice grandparents give sometimes. She told me that I really don’t understand her and that all I was giving was “generic advice“. Is it worth it for me to try and be nice to someone I care about when in the end, it just backfires?
I should probably add that she did say that she appreciates what I was trying to do, but then throws the other things at me, and in the end, it just made me feel like I can’t do anything to help her in the time she actually needs me to be there.

Advice, should I stay home or move out?

I will be 18 in October and a senior in high school.
Right now I live with my grandparents, mom, and younger brother (age 5 in august)
My mom is moving in with her boyfriend (and plans on leaving my brother in the hands of my grandparents, since I’m not 18 yet)
If I stayed in my grandparents house, I would feel like a burden even though I know they don’t mind me living here, I think they would like their house back to their selves
I have a steady job with a steady income (8.25/hr avg. paycheck bi-weekly $550-600)
I think I could afford a small apartment on my own, but my boyfriend is willing to help out as well
We have been together for 2 1/2 years (3 in October) so no need to worry about us breaking up and not having enough money
Basically, the apartment would need to be 2 rooms, doesn’t matter the space, etc.
If it’s not obvious I would take my brother with me, because I wouldn’t want my grandparents to raise him (I don’t think they can handle the stress of a 5 year old at their age)

So, I guess my question is should I stay in my grandparents house, or move out?
Do you think I could afford it? (I live in PA)

I have been thinking this over for some time since I found out my mom’s plans and would like some feedback. I am trying to make things easier on my grandparents.

Any advice is greatly appreciated! Thank you all for your input!

Grandparent Problems.. Advice?

My husband and I had a baby in November, which we got pregnant with my Senior year in High School. We got married, moved out, but our parents never really had the chance to let go. Since we had our baby, they both want to see him at least once a week. I often feel too much guilt to say anything to my mother; however, I think my brother might have mentioned something to her because she is backing off a bit. My mother in law gets her feelings hurt very easily but my husband is not afraid to say anything to her. Plus my father doesn’t hardly ever get to see him so he gets jealous of the others and frustrated.
They are wonderful grandparents, and help us out alot so we do owe them some, but it makes me so frustrated to think that they feel they need to see our son so often. It causes many fights between us and makes alot of stress for us. I know we made the mistake of letting them see him so much at first so now they are used to it, but what can we do to make them realize we would like them to back off a bit, with as little confrontation as possible?
Also this can be used as a warning for those about to have children.
Thank you seven, but once a week is alot when we are going to school, he is working, and there are three sets of grandparents. Also, my husband didn’t see his often and I saw one of mine very often which is what my mom probably sees as normal.
Also I dont like him staying at my dad’s without me.
All of you who say once a week is good.. With 3 grandparents that makes 3 nights a week! I have school and my husband has work; with homework and trying to please them it makes us miserable!

How do you deal with ex – in laws after an acrimonious divorce – child involved.?

My husband and I separated. For 5 years he had treated me like dirt, cheating and being physically abusive. we have a toddler. We have separated permanently now. At the beginning his family were really great and supportive etc but as things got worse he started feeding them a pack of lies about me and trying to take the blame away from himself about the break up. They are good people and I dont know how a rat like my husband came from such a nice family but now I do not know how to deal with them. He is always telling lies about me (I hear snippets back) and I do not want to continue the he-said-she-said game any longer and I do not give my version or defend myself anymore.

I want to know how I can maintain a sort of relationship for the sake of our child as I want her to know both sets of aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents.
advice please.
Thanks